There's two kinds of people in the world- ones who will straight up stop you when they lose interest, and those who will keep nodding- not really listening, but they don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you to stop. Have you ever had someone tell you to stop telling a story?? Or listened to someone who thinks what they have to say is interesting to everyone? Or doesn't care if people are listening or not? My dad is one of those people. It's amazing.
I'm telling my story to my family at the dinner table about how the guy on Craig's List I had to meet in the next town over to sell one of my brother's Lego sets is coming after me via email because the set we sold him is missing two pieces. This guy was also short $5 , so I had an argument I could create with this guy. I was reading the emails we had exchanged. I was just getting into my witty and slightly harsh email back to get him off our case (if you know me, you know I have a hard time standing up for myself and I was proud of this email)
"I don't care about that!" He interjects in the middle of my witty email, before the part where I told the guy off. "We get it, we get it - you told the guy he owes you $5 so you want him to leave you alone" Which is code for, stop wasting my time talking about this, I don't want to hear about it, I know how this story ends already. I don't care about the details.
But interesting enough, you ask him a question about history, Isis, Corporate America, math, the mattress industry, Verizon, airports charging $2 to park for under an hour, he will rant on and on and on. For hours. Even if you are rolling your eyes to the back of your head and straight up tell him to stop. He will keep on going. I don't understand. I know I can't do that.
If someone is losing interest in what I have to say, I'm paying attention to that and either shortening my story, or throwing in a curveball. Or just stopping all together. Wasting someone's time is a crime to me. Boring someone is wasting someone's time in my opinion.
So maybe some people just don't share the same interests and don't want to "waste their time" listening to something they don't care about. Some people don't listen to who they are talking to. Some people just don't know how to tell when they are boring their audience and they think that what they are saying is so important everyone should be listening to them.