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Seeing this tweet sparked a realization of myself. I want more than anything to be there for people, but very rarely do people reach out to me for advice...Or updates for that matter. I want to have people's backs when they fall but if they are falling the other way, I can't catch them. It's ironic how the people who don't want to deal with the bad things a person is going to usually gets it. I had a conversation with someone this weekend who said, "Man...I'm just so exhausted from listening to people's problems." It was vague, and I wanted him to go more into detail. But it was almost like, he didn't think I wanted to wait for him to pull up an example from a text conversation. Like I "didn't have time" for him to locate that meme he favorited on twitter 2 weeks ago that he found relatable. He left it at that. So I looked at him and laughed. I said, You know... You should feel lucky people are drawn to you on that level and can open up to you. I would love for the opportunity to be there for more people. As much as I talk, there's very few people I speak with that actually come to me with their problems and what's really going on in their life beyond the small talk, life summarized into 2.5 sentences. It's easy for me to think I don't have anybody sometimes. No I do not have a psychology degree. But I know how to listen. My priorities are in anyone who needs me's favor. Lately I feel like being taken advantage of sounds better than never being called upon to be there for somebody. People's problems never get old to me... I want to see it through and I want to know they come out on top. 🤔🤔
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There's two kinds of people in the world- ones who will straight up stop you when they lose interest, and those who will keep nodding- not really listening, but they don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you to stop. Have you ever had someone tell you to stop telling a story?? Or listened to someone who thinks what they have to say is interesting to everyone? Or doesn't care if people are listening or not? My dad is one of those people. It's amazing.
I'm telling my story to my family at the dinner table about how the guy on Craig's List I had to meet in the next town over to sell one of my brother's Lego sets is coming after me via email because the set we sold him is missing two pieces. This guy was also short $5 , so I had an argument I could create with this guy. I was reading the emails we had exchanged. I was just getting into my witty and slightly harsh email back to get him off our case (if you know me, you know I have a hard time standing up for myself and I was proud of this email) ...... "I don't care about that!" He interjects in the middle of my witty email, before the part where I told the guy off. "We get it, we get it - you told the guy he owes you $5 so you want him to leave you alone" Which is code for, stop wasting my time talking about this, I don't want to hear about it, I know how this story ends already. I don't care about the details. But interesting enough, you ask him a question about history, Isis, Corporate America, math, the mattress industry, Verizon, airports charging $2 to park for under an hour, he will rant on and on and on. For hours. Even if you are rolling your eyes to the back of your head and straight up tell him to stop. He will keep on going. I don't understand. I know I can't do that. If someone is losing interest in what I have to say, I'm paying attention to that and either shortening my story, or throwing in a curveball. Or just stopping all together. Wasting someone's time is a crime to me. Boring someone is wasting someone's time in my opinion. So maybe some people just don't share the same interests and don't want to "waste their time" listening to something they don't care about. Some people don't listen to who they are talking to. Some people just don't know how to tell when they are boring their audience and they think that what they are saying is so important everyone should be listening to them. Hi! My name is Sarah and I hate inequality and laziness equally. Before you defriend me/ delete me from your life because of my statement, I have to tell you. I’m the most unbiased person you will ever meet. I have a lot of ideas. I don't know if any of them will work. But what I do know is that I care way too much about other people. I want to help ALL people enjoy life more by helping them stop being their own roadblock on their road to success. I have the motivation to actually say SOMETHING. And I keep on keeping these thoughts all to myself. I forget a lot and kick myself trying to remember until I come to peace with the fact that the idea is gone forever. Maybe, just maybe, one of my ideas will make sense, resonate with some dude or help someone out of a not so fantastic place. My hope is by using my otherwise useless skills I acquired in undergrad, I’ll be able to present my outlandish ideas for someone else’s improvement. Whether they make sense or not, create arguments or motivation, I’m just gonna put them out there. So back to my “I hate laziness” statement. If you look at the basics of society... Our first ancestors, (before things weren't fair: ex: racism, inequality, social status, prices of clothes) This is when they were figuring out how to survive!! The ones who sat around and waited for things to “just happen” are the ones that GOT GOT. ( Didn’t survive). The ones who worked hard every day and were motivated to innovate ways of survival GOT THEIRS (survived!) Today: people who show up at career fairs, network, and ask questions are going to GET THEIRS, while people who sit at home watching Netflix waiting for somebody to hand them a job/their next meal is going to GET GOT.
So let’s take a look at the inequality in the education arena of society. It begins with how people are brought up. Not everyone is ABLE to go to college because their parents didn’t save money for them to go, they didn’t score high enough on the SAT, or they just straight up didn’t want to go and their decision wasn’t argued. Meanwhile...on the other end of the spectrum, some people’s parents have saved money in college funds for them to go, or have the ability to pay for them to go to school, and it is expected of them to go. Based on an individual’s upbringing, determines whether they go to college and get that B.A./B.S. But does that determine whether or not they work hard?? NO!!!! This is where my theory of motivation and effort comes in. If we take a look back at my “useless skills in undergraduate” statement. You might call me ignorant for this…. But all too often we hear of individuals with a job, claiming they “don’t use anything they learned in college” or “what I’m doing now has absolutely nothing to do with what I studied in school.” So why should the fact that there’s a B.A./B.S. next to the candidate’s name make them MORE QUALIFIED to do the job successfully than a candidate without a degree at all? So if you want to call me ignorant for asking that, I’ll bring up my scenario of someone’s thought process: “Having a college degree is the only way I can get a job...but I can’t go to college because my family can’t afford it.” Or, “My SAT score is too low and I didn’t get into any colleges.” I GET THAT. I understand. But there is absolutely NOTHING stopping you from going out to volunteer with an organization or do an unpaid internship somewhere. You can decide to do nothing and fail, or you can make the best of things and make an opportunity for yourself that could result in a job somewhere down the line. There are absolutely zero barriers to free experience. People don’t say no to free help -- no matter what color you are, what education you have or don't have, etc. as long as you WORK HARD, have a POSITIVE ATTITUDE, and take an interest enough to CONTRIBUTE. The candidate that will work hard to learn how to do the job and try their best every single day, should be the candidate that gets the job, not just because they have a B.A. or B.S. next to their name… am I right?? My takeaway point is this: People who weren’t brought up in a family with built-in success, or have the ability to get a college degree shouldn’t curl up in a ball of nothingness and give up, dooming themselves to a life of food stamps and poverty. If each person who couldn’t go to college found a passion and motivation, working hard every day to get involved with something other than sitting around telling themselves “they can’t because they weren’t given a fair chance,” they would GET THEIRS TOO. No. It’s not fair that some have a “head start” or have more built-in support than others, but that’s just the way it is. You can either sit back and feel bad for yourself, claiming it’s not fair, and do nothing, or you can do something. Use free resources and seek opportunity and work hard at SOMETHING every day. Someone’s going to notice. With effort, you WILL make connections, and you WILL have a future. Bless UP. Text/Comment/Email/Tweet ME PLEASE if this got you THINKING! |
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